Most of you will agree that, that family is one of the most important aspects of a person’s life. The upbringing defines an individual and creates an individual’s identity. In this respect it remains of utmost importance to initiate, cultivate, maintain, and prioritize family relationships.
We find identity in family relationships because we are a product of our parents. We are formed in mother’s womb because of a choice made by both – mother and father. They are our parents, our blood, and our reason for existence. As we grew up in their house, we learned a great deal from them. As a child we find comfort in hanging out with our parents. As a teenager we find identity when we step away from parents and illustrate our independence. As a young adult as we are now independent, learn to appreciate them so much more.
Many years of research have documented clearly the critical role of parenting in influencing all aspects of children’s development. The responsibility of today’s parents is has multiplied greatly. We are in times where the parents have to make sure that every move that they make is in sync with the plans and dreams that they cherished for their precious little one.
Parents’ role does not stop with sending their children to school. Availing the opportunities given by the school, they should get to know the teachers, have healthy discussions with them and be helpful to the school in as many ways as possible. The role of parents in a child’s education is highly valued by the school. Constant and effective communication between parents and the school is vital to the success of children. Parents should keep close touch in the following ways: Using the school diary as a communication link Attend all parents evenings Make appointments through the office to meet the Principal or teachers whenever necessary. Attend school activities or functions to encourage your child.
Some other areas that parents should bear in mind:
Warmth & Care:
Early school-age children need to feel loved. They need to learn and to gain self-esteem. However, different children, even within the same age group, also have individual needs. Parents should keep each child’s unique qualities in mind when either selecting or providing care.
Parents who teach their children self-discipline help educators make school time more effective. Yet, many parents don’t know what to do. Parents should teach children self-discipline by detailing effective ways to: talk with children to reinforce good behavior and address areas that need improvement; create a caring, nurturing environment conducive to self-discipline; use the power of expectations; help children develop good habits; use incentives and rewards correctly; build persistence, goal setting and personal organization skills.
Reasonable academic standards:
The assumption is that teenagers need to be pushed, that they’re not performing to ability. That’s true for many. But others push themselves too hard, and that’s just as damaging. You need to be sensitive to your child’s abilities and attitudes. Parents should remember that their children are not the means to fulfill their unfulfilled dreams. Let your child make his/her dream a reality. Some parents turn into ‘hyper-parents’ and some of them fall prey to the ‘super-parent’ syndrome – especially when it come to academics.
The last thing that your child expects from you is comparison with another ‘brilliant’ or ‘a well-behaved child’. It is good to lay standards and provide benchmarks, but let these role models be you and not another child. Let your behavior be the point of reference for your child to be a better person.
One of the most important needs of children this age is to feel that others appreciate and respect them as individuals, as well as for their abilities and skills. Allowing children to follow their interests is a way to help children feel successful and to build self-esteem.
Time to relax:
Children also need some down time – time to relax and hang out with friends – without adult expectations and demands. In our fast-paced world, it’s very tempting to overload children with too much to do. Relaxed children will blossom more beautifully as people.